Based on the contents of the emotional backpack that you are carrying…who’s names are on those rocks or what would you call them? Are you naming them for an experience, for a person, for an overall theme or feeling?
When you think of the contents, if you were to categorize them or put them into different piles as to what the source is, what would that look like for you?
One of my big life influences has been Louise L. Hay, and her little blue book, Heal Your Body, has been a resource that I have used perpetually and have given multiple copies away to others. When I read her first book “You can Heal Your Life”, I fell deeply in love with the concept that I could be my own healer.
Through changing my language, both in my inner and outer dialogue I could change my life and be free of all that hindered me. What I have learned is that sometimes the very tool that we use for the greater good can also put us in a place of blame.
Blaming someone or something for our dis-ease or discord in our life may initially feel empowering but blame’s superpower is to dis-empower us and can put us in an If-Then mindset that decreases our efficacy of feeling, being or doing better.
Here are some examples:
IF he/she/they had or hadn’t done x/y/z THEN I would feel …
IF he/she/they had or hadn’t said x/y/z THEN I would feel …
There used to be a saying that when we point our finger at someone else we have three pointing back at ourselves, and when I recognized that I was looking outside of myself that where I needed to look was in the mirror.
Therein lies the contrast, when we take the tools we are using for our greater good and use them as a means to take us out of owing our feelings and potentially adding more weight to our load.