When you think of grief, most likely death is first and foremost in your mind. It is the most obvious and definitive loss experience equated to grief. Divorce may be the other life event that you think of. Yet, there are a multitude of other experiences that get overlooked as grief and loss events.
It bears repeating that this list is incomplete because there are countless life events that people have experienced that have caused them to grieve. The other challenge is that this list may be perceived as being written in some type of hierarchy of loss; which is absolutely not the case. Grief is not measurable or quantified, based on what has been lost.
Whether happening in your community, across or around the world. These are emotional events, wherever you are in the world.
Intangibles may be an underlying feeling in association with any of the loss events above, and they may be a primary feeling of loss.
When relationships change significantly, unresolved emotions can be tucked away, which can make moving forward difficult.
Feelings around what you wanted more of, what you wanted to be better or different during the relationship with whomever or whatever has been lost.
Maybe you wanted them to have said or done something more of, or to have done things differently or done better than they did. Or perhaps you wish you had said or done something more, better or differently.
And it’s not uncommon for people to have experienced multiple losses and not feel impeded; then another loss is experienced and the weight of all of them collectively is felt.
If you’re recognizing how grief has and is affecting you; and want to reconnect the parts of you and your life that grief has put on hold.