Body, Food & Fitness
Of all the relationships I have and have had in my life, the one with my B.F.F. is the longest and has been the most tumultuous.
And its all on me.
How do I know?
I know because, I have to sit and think about the times when I truly celebrated and appreciated my relationship with my B.F.F.
Yet, in a heartbeat I can recount endless experiences when it was fraught with tension, remorse, regret, and recrimination.
Despite it all, my B.F.F. is with me day in and day out!
What makes me stay in a relationship like this?
I stay, because the B.F.F. I’m talking about is my lifelong relationship with my Body, Food & Fitness
Are you familiar with a conversation like this?
Person #1 serves the ball by saying,“Oh my gawd,
I feel so or I am……..(insert negative reference to body)….”
Person #2 returns the ball by saying, “Don’t be ridiculous, you are NOT (refers to negative reference)”
Person #1 volleys another ball across the net by saying, “It is true, I just went shopping and I had to buy a larger size (dress, jeans, pants, top), because I looked like (insert another negative reference).
Person #2 returns with something supportive and to negate person #1’s tirade on themselves.
The tennis match continues. Sometimes Person #2 takes a turn at serving and person #1 is returning supportive comments etc.
Words are Powerful
I’ve had countless conversations like that.
And we would easily carry on a conversation going back and forth and back and forth, being funny or sarcastic about our choices, our bodies, and most significantly we would be diminishing ourselves but with “friendly” banter.
That empathetic exchange between friends does nothing to uplift our B.F.F. relationship.
It may make us feel better knowing that we are not alone in this moment, that others can sympathize and understand.
And getting it off our mind by being able to share that with someone is a way of diffusing the energy.
Curious, is it possible that we believe that since we are saying it about ourselves that it isn’t harmful. What about when there is the litany of self deprecating comments that are spinning in your mind that we are not expressing.
Is it harmful then?
Are those words and thoughts creating a healthy relationship between
You + Your Body,
You + Your Food,
You + Your Fitness?
Many Moving Parts
There are so many moving parts when it comes to this intricate relationship as a whole.
I get that.
How you feel about your body can affect how you feel about the food you are eating or have eaten.
How you feel about the food you have or are going to eat can affect your relationship to your body.
How you feel about your physical ability to move and or your physical movement (fitness) can affect your relationship with both food and your body.
These are just a couple combinations.
Plus, this works both positively and negatively, when your relationship with your B.F.F. is good and when its not as good as it could be.
Stress is another word for fear
And when we focus on our stressful thoughts things can get pretty... scary…
- thinking about what you ate yesterday
- thinking about how much you ate the day before yesterday
- about whether or not you worked out enough or at all
- about whether you logged enough steps last week
- about how I wish I was still the same size as when I was….
- why didn’t I…
- about what you are going to eat
- I will be happy and love my body when…
- about what my spouse, friends, family coworkers will say when they see me
- about what you are going to wear to work, an event etc
I’m not telling you how you feel, however that kind of or any kind of stress doesn’t feel good.
And if is a strong element of your relationship with your own B.F.F. that likely doesn’t feel good either.
There are so many mixed messages out there when it comes to our Body, Food & Fitness.
There are permission based messages such as: “Eat the cake, buy the shoes!” and because it is January the world is littered with advertising messages telling us to: “Lose the cake & put on your running shoes!“.
We have over 60,000 thoughts running through our minds every day; and if you have decided to make a change to your Body, Food or Fitness its possible that you may notice that not all of those thoughts are on the side of you succeeding in your BFF goals.
This is what I want to work with you on in The Life Reclamation Project: B.F.F.
Perhaps you have heard the analogy that “The best defense is a good offense”. When your thoughts and feelings about making your unique changes to your B.F.F. and there is discord in that relationship, you may always be on defense. Playing defense and having to defend your goal more often than not is exhausting.
That is what I mean when I say this is about YOU + YOUR relationship with your B.F.F. If you have every had a tiff with your Best Friend Forever; then created an opportunity to clear the air, get things off your chest and get back to the feel good of your relationship…doesn’t that feel lighter? You were emotionally honest about how you were feeling…You felt heard.
They felt heard.You reconnected and together were back on track.
That is the benefit I intend for you; so that you can pursue your goals around and on your B.F.F. as a team, playing offense together and moving forward and toward whatever your goal is!