Have you ever gone to a coffee shop, sat at a table, placed your coffee down and realized that the table was wobbly? You quickly pick your drink up, then wiggle the table even more to determine if you can sit there, without it sliding into your lap.
From that little experiment you can determine the integrity of the table, perhaps you also look around to see if there is another table available and with that information you can pick the best option for you.
There is no right or wrong option, and obviously there are way more variables and options than just those three. Odds are you would choose the one that aligned with you at that time, with the information you had, or the one that was most closely aligned.
Alignment comes from the information you have got with the wiggle test and your experience in fixing a wobbly table in the past. Unconsciously, maybe you ran through times in your life you successfully shimmed up a table or watched someone else do it. Even knowing that there was a possibility that leveling one leg could make another one get wonky.
You either believed that trying and potentially trying again was worth the effort, or believed it wasn’t worth the effort, based on whatever your conscious and unconscious criteria was.
Everything you believe about yourself and the world at large makes up your belief system. Most of which is correct, the balance that is incorrect becomes a part of you as well.
Like table legs support the table top, your belief system’s job is to support your values.
Their job is to act as an unconscious filter for your mind to either accept, modify or delete information that we take in through our senses. In my last blog I called the belief system, the algorithm running in the background, so for example, in that busy coffee shop you are able to tune out the conversations, the music, the sounds etc that don’t apply to you yet you’ll be able to hear your name called when your order is ready.
Beliefs are held ideas about yourself, others, groups, situations and circumstances that we have attached an absolute rightness to, in our minds. Which informs our decision making and the actions we take as a means to get the result, or not. For instance beliefs about yourself: whether you believe you are able to do something or not, whether you are worthy to receive or achieve something or not, etc.
Henry Ford — ‘Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.’
Our attachment to the accuracy of this information may cause us to repeat the same patterns, mistakes, and decisions over and over again. Which can affect your life in all ways.
Some beliefs can help us grow, fuel our resilience, and support us confidently to consistently take steps towards our goals.
On the contrary, some of our beliefs limit us from being, doing and having the very goals we have set for ourselves. They can stop us from trying, make us feel helpless and conflicted because a part of us may believe yet something is stopping us from doing so completely.
We don’t have to look very deep into history to see examples of when someone believes so strongly in something that despite evidence to the contrary, their belief did not waver.
Yet you may have witnessed this or experienced it for yourself a time when you did something that proved what you believed was not true–anymore for you.
We can be consciously aware of some of what we believe, but most of our beliefs exist at the unconscious level.
Bottom line is that when you bump into a belief that is limiting your ability to be, do and have –questioning whether or not it is true for you, anymore* can be the quickest way to edit and update your system.
Anymore is vital, because your beliefs have supported the way that YOU needed them to, until now.
Maybe you have been inspired, have decided to branch out, expand, and want to do things differently…
Identifying what you were holding onto, that was holding you back, questioning it then updating it to what is true today–may have been the fix for the table that you needed.
Because your dreams and goals are valid, and if you feel that you have the where, what and how handled and despite try, try, trying again and to no avail, perhaps its the tabletop that needs looking at.
Your values are why you do what you do, your beliefs support that system, so a bringing what is important to you forward, may be the realignment you need.
Maybe that’s true for you, maybe not.
I’m here if you want to chat about it.